Dignity in Housekeeping

There is a common perception that the grass is greener on the other side; and also a belief among many eastern souls that anything western is superior or better, thus imitating many foreign things that undermine the prevailing cultural values and heritages.

One such imitation is the nature of the housekeeping job, whose job description includes the collection and disposal of tissue papers used for anal cleansing. Such acts can be undignified in eastern cultures because people there didn't grow up with that culture, but in the culture of anal cleansing with water post defecation. This practice limits the act of defecation to oneself: from start to finish, not requiring any role of a second party. This cultivates a mentality that being a part of someone else's defecation in any remote way is plain disgusting. Therefore when individuals who grew up in such cultures are required to collect and dispose such wastes because of job description, it is plain disgusting and undignified.

Because people sign up whatever jobs for whatever reasons, it does not mean that there must be jobs that are perceived to be undignified or disrespectful when judged through the lenses of local culture. An act may be a standard practice in a culture, but a disrespectful one in others. Therefore, societies must pay attention to such cultural differences when jobs are created, regulated, formalized, camouflaged or even glorified with attractive titles.

However, this is not applicable to an eastern individual born and brought up in a western society. You can always give him the benefit of doubt that at least outside his house, he is used to a culture of toilet papers. Therefore he won't have the same disgust as someone who was brought up in eastern societies. Also, you simply can't go to a foreign society and ask them to change their culture to suit you.

How to clean up after defecation is one's own choice, but whatever methods are used, if waste is generated, it is their duty, responsibility and decency to dispose it off. When animals who are cerebrally behind humans can take care of their waste, is it not a shame that we humans under-do them?

If it is disgusting to meddle with one's own waste when he can just dump it, ask yourself if it is OK to expect someone else to meddle with your waste? How civilised is it of you to do so? When someone disposes his waste with the least interaction, someone else will have to handle it with more interaction which can be disgusting and undignified.

There are indeed consequences if eastern societies mandate such changes. The tourism sector of all will be the most severely affected since a good percentage of foreigners are from west who use toilet papers. I do not believe that the collection and disposal of such wastes are part of our hospitality: aditi devo bhava. Undignified tasks does not constitute hospitality because being hospitable is not about losing one's self-respect or dignity. Instead it is about our attitude to others and how we treat them such that either of the parties does not lose their self-respect or dignity.

Perhaps a better adoption strategy is to self-change. Whether the individual is from the east or the west, he much introspect whether it is a justifiable practice to leave his used toilet papers to be collected and disposed by someone to whom and in whose culture, the practice is undignified. If it is not, he should choose one of the alternatives such as using a bidet or using hand, water and soap. Besides, hotels and commercial spaces can also design their toilets in a new way so as to dispose toilet papers automatically without the involvement of an individual.

Such attitude towards waste disposal can be extended to other practices such as the disposal of menstrual wastes, used condoms and baby diapers. It's not someone else's job to clean up one's own waste, whatever civilised and progressive society we live in.